Stress Relief: Counting to 10

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“Sean and I had already been teaching our children to count and breath in relaxation exercises that would reduce their anxiety (Fraser, 1996) so I decided to “practice what I was preaching”. (Parenting Strategies on the Go , p. 1).

Fraser, M. (1996). Aggressive behavior in childhood and early adolescence: An ecological-development perspective on youth violence. Social Work, 41, 347-362.

 

 

Scenario:

The children are running, fighting, yelling or whatever. We parents with multiple children have all been there. You, the parents, are TIRED OF IT! In your most controlled voice you state, “Sit down and be quiet.” Begin counting to 10 in silence.

 

Three things Counting to 10 can do for you and your children.

 

  1. It is a signal to your offspring that this is serious enough for silence. It builds their schema (the mental map) that their behavior was unacceptable.
  2. It gives you time to “think through” the exchange of dialogue that is coming up. It may be the children can explain their actions then change those actions through dialogue with you. So, they have the opportunity to correct the problem, or you, the parent may have to correct the problem through positive or negative reinforcements.
  3. You are the parent who needs to control the situation not the children. You counting to 10 calmly lets the children know that their ruckus did not control your actions where you act inappropriately (yelling, cursing ). Screaming, cursing, and ranting don’t help solve problems. Thinking, discussion, and changing inappropriate actions do.

 

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Thursday January 14, 2016: Educator Reception/Author Discussion

"Parenting Strategies on the Go" -Haven Caylor, Ed. D.

“Parenting Strategies on the Go” -Haven Caylor, Ed. D.

Raffle Tickets for the 12 Noon Drawing can the purchased the DAY OF the event: January 14, 2016-Thursday 11:00 AM -12 Noon. $200 Barnes and Noble Gift Card (Show your Barnes and Noble receipt of Parenting Strategies on the Go , get a ticket, must be present to collect your gift certificate if your name is drawn)

2100 Hamilton Pl Blvd #315, Chattanooga, TN 37421
Phone:(423) 893-0186

It’s Educator Appreciation Week at Barnes and Noble . Bring or rendezvous with a retired, semi-retired educator/mentor who has made a positive impact on your life for some refreshments and fellowship. Treat them to a new book from Barnes and Noble, take them out to lunch afterwards on Thursday January 14….

Homeschool parents, ANY PARENT if you are available, Grandparents, check out Parenting Strategies on the Go: to help create plans of action for teaching your children as you travel in 2016. One thing I would like to emphasize from the book is learning with Howard Gardner’s Multiple Intelligences.

Along with a discussion on teaching strategies from me, there will be special refreshments for everyone and activities for the students. Children 11 and under have the opportunity to become a Bookseller-For-A-Day and learn the ins, the outs, and the behind the scenes of how Barnes & Noble Hamilton Place runs. 12 and up will have the opportunity to work with a variety of electronic and coding workshops.

Educational Excitement

Barnes and Noble Book Signing

My Future Authors, Carter & Ammon

 

What a week: November 23-November 28, 2015!

From a story (Christmas Hawk) that was created by Carter, Ammon, and myself December 2013 as we walked in our field to the week of November 23, 2015, we made it to Chattanooga television and a book signing at Barnes and Noble!

My “babies” and I created, wrote, and published the book, but it was because Kelly Flemmings believes in us that we had such an exciting and educational week. Kelly is the Barnes and Noble store manager at Hamilton Place Mall in Chattanooga, Tennessee. He runs the best Barnes and Noble retail store I’ve ever set foot in and that includes the Barnes and Noble on 5th Avenue New York City. Thank you, Kelly.

My spiritual anchors for the book signing were Vicki Trapp, her sister, Susan, Sheila, Claire Randle, Leah McDonough, Janie Dempsey Watts, and Endia. They filled my spirit and made the event like a fellowship. I was so blessed, and I thank God for all those people and the opportunity I had to experience this life-changing event with my precious children, Ammon & Carter.

Haven reading "Christmas Hawk" to a Barnes and Noble crowd

Haven reading “Christmas Hawk” to a Barnes and Noble crowd

 

From WTVC News Channel 9 in Chattanooga I thank both Margie Scott and Brian Smith (Thin N That) for their kindness and support. From WRCB Channel 3 in Chattanooga I thank Julie Edwards for her support and awesome and engaging interview with Carter and Ammon.

 

Interviews 

WTVC – This N That 

http://bit.ly/thisnthat_Hawk

WTVC This N That

Getting Microphones placed for our interview with Brian Smith

 

WRCB- 3 + You

http://bit.ly/3plusyou_Hawk

 

WRCB 3 + You

Carter & Ammon Patiently wait for their interview with Julie Edwards

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Peggy, Janie, Kelly, & God…thank you all!

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Friends & Family

There was a chain reaction that started with Peggy Lamb (Carter and Ammon’s aunt) helped me get in contact with a local author, Janie Dempsey Watts (You need to read her Moon Over Taylor’s Ridge Moon over Taylor’s Ridge ). Janie gave me the suggestion to head to Barnes & Noble to speak with the manager Kelly Flemmings. I have been so blessed that these wonderful people have helped me to write. I now have 2 books! It took 2 years, but I did it.

 

My parenting/travel/memoir is Parenting Strategies on the Go , and I had a great “kick off” book signing at Barnes and Noble in Chattanooga, Tennessee.

My other book is Christmas Hawk